When Your Partner Needs More Space
Relationships require work, a lot of work if they are to survive. However, we are all different and some of us can easily feel “trapped” or “smothered”. So what do you do?
An only child, such as myself, is used to their own company and often happy in it. For others with siblings, they may be less intense, and not value privacy as much.
When your partner tells you that they need space, they are not necessarily pushing you away. I say not necessarily, because let’s not kid ourselves here, they may genuinely not want to be with you, but if all other areas of your relationship are ok, then it’s nothing to fear.
In other words, a good way to judge whether this request for more space is a message telling you it’s over, is to ask yourself if this is strange behaviour. If it is out of character, then you need to talk.
The point is, people who need more space have usually always been like that. You may have lost sight of it, perhaps you’re working all the time like so many people today. Just think back to how things used to be.
But if it’s completely out of character, you may have a problem.
If you deal with this by the book, you will find most books advise breaking of contact with an ex, rather than hit them with raw emotion and saying things you may later regret.
What they don’t tell you though, is that your partner wanting more space is not the same thing.
When a partner wants more time to themselves it’s often nothing to do with their partner, in that they are perfectly happy, but for a plethora of reasons they need space. It can be stress at work, tiredness, or that general malaise we can all feel from time to time from the stresses of modern living. They just need time out from everything.
The most important thing in a relationship is communication.
Without quality time spent alone with one’s partner, relationships can be hard work.
To maintain mutual understanding, aim to have a date together once a week, in which there are no friends or TV, just the two of you, talking.
Once you start sharing your lives again, even if your partner wants more space, at least you will have a better understanding of why.
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