Making Up With Your Ex In Minutes
When we’ve broken up with a loved one and want them back, we want it to happen fast. 15 minutes would be good, and it can happen. We don’t want it to take weeks or months as we try to let time heal their wounds.
But often you can get your ex back fast, in just a few days. Sometimes you can get your ex back in minutes. Here’s what you need to understand to accomplish this:
You broke up because something emotional happened for your ex. Their positive feelings about you have been replaced with negative ones, like anger or betrayal or broken trust. They broke up with you because negative emotions now cover over the positive ones.
So in order to get your ex back fast, you have to help them to release those negative emotions about you. When you help them to release them, you can get them back fast, sometimes in under 30 minutes.
How in the world can you, who learned no emotional skills in school, possibly help your ex to release their bad feelings towards you? There is a seven step process to accomplish this, but one of the key parts you already have used and understand. It’s generally called venting or getting things off your chest or emptying your cup.
What you have to do is help them to vent. Let them get these feelings about you off their chest. So if you cheated on them, for example, they are feeling betrayed, hurt, ashamed. That’s what fills their heart now. You’ve got to get them to vent, to empty their cup, to tell you how they feel about what you did. You don’t argue, you don’t defend yourself, you get them to talk and tell you what they think of you.
As they blame or shout or cry at you, they are actually releasing those bad feelings. They are venting out the emotional charge about what you did. If you don’t argue with them, if you make them feel heard, they will release those feelings some, making room in their heart to consider taking you back.
There is a whole art and science to getting your ex to vent in a way that is effective, but if you can get your ex to vent their negative feelings you can often help them make room in their heart to give you a second chance. This can happen within 15 minutes, sometimes, depending on what happened and how you go about reconnecting. There’s more to this, but you don’t need to wait weeks or months to get your ex back if you have a powerful reconnect strategy.
